save the date
wording & etiquette

Anatomy of a Save the Date Invitation
  1. Your Names
    The bride’s name traditionally appears first. For same-sex couples, consider alphabetical order.
  2. Wedding Date
    Spell out the entire date if you prefer a formal tone.
  3. Wedding Website
    Keep guests informed, share photos and organize your wedding registry with a custom wedding website.
  4. Wedding Location
    List the city and state (you will share the venue details on the actual wedding invitation).
  5. “Invitation to Follow”
    This lets guests know they should expect a wedding invitation in the weeks/months to come.

Congratulations, you’re engaged! Once you’ve booked a wedding venue, it’s time to start thinking about save the dates. This little piece of wedding stationery serves as a heads-up to guests so they can mark their calendars and begin making travel plans to attend your celebration. The save the dates also lets them know there will be a formal wedding invitation on the way with all the details. This means you can keep your save the date wording short, simple, and to the point.

what to include (and not include)

What to include on your save the date

There's no need to have all your wedding details set in stone in order to send out save the dates. All the information you need to include on your save the date is listed below (along with a few things you can skip!).

Your names
The bride’s name traditionally appears first. For same-sex couples, consider alphabetical order.

Wedding date
Spell out the entire date if you prefer a formal tone.

Wedding location
List the city and state (you will share the venue details on your wedding invitation).

Wedding website URL
A wedding website is a great way to share all information concerning your wedding and is a great resource for guests.

“Invitation to follow” wording
This lets guests know they should expect a wedding invitation in the weeks/months to come.

What not to include on your save the date

Your venue
As long as you include the city and state, you're good! But you can certainly include your venue name, if you'd like. If you haven’t found one yet, here are 13 key questions to ask as you scout a venue.

Hotel/accommodations information
At this point, don’t bog guests down with too many details. Send hotel information with the official wedding invitation, instead.

Ceremony and reception start times
You’re early in the wedding planning so there’s no need to have specific start times in place yet. The purpose of the save the date is to inform guests of the wedding date and locale. However, if you need a guide for a wedding day timeline as you plan, we have one you can reference!

Dress code information
Again, it's too early to send this info just yet—save any details on wedding guest attire for the wedding invitation.

RSVP request
Save the date etiquette states that you don’t ask guests to RSVP upon receipt. It’s easy to get caught up in what to include or not include in your save the date, so be sure to review our complete article on save the date mistakes to avoid.

How to Word Your Save the Date

When it comes to save the date wording, this is a time to be celebratory, so feel free to get creative with your save-the-date text. Write in a way that is natural for you as a couple while still including all the details. If you’re a more traditional couple, go with some beautiful classic and formal text. If you tend to be briefer and to the point, try something modern and minimalist. And if you’re the couple that’s always cracking jokes, it’s the perfect time to be playful and funny. Some couples include a photo from the engagement shoot or a favorite quote or saying, if there’s room. Here are a few examples of how couples word their save the dates.

Traditional Baby Shower example

Gilded by Erin L. Wilson Classic Elegance by Shirley Lin Schneider

Stylish Script

Save the Date Cards

Hooray Creative

by Hooray Creative

Buffalo, NY


Save the Date Cards

Kimberly FitzSimons

by Kimberly FitzSimons

Pelham, NY

Stylish Script

Save the Date Cards

Hooray Creative

by Hooray Creative

Buffalo, NY

Simply Striking

Save the Date Cards

Stacey Meacham

by Stacey Meacham

Greenville, SC

wording examples

Need some help wording your save the dates? Follow our handy invitation wording guide below.

What tone would you like for your save the dates?

Classic and Formal

Sample wording for a classic and formal save the date.

For a more traditional look, choose a save the date design featuring an elegant combination of serif fonts and calligraphy script. Non-photo designs convey a more refined, formal look. Choose foil details—borders, frames, lines—in gold, silver, or rose gold to add a luxe touch. Include your full names and spell out the date and location to give your save the date a more formal tone.

Save the Date
May 28
Twenty 23
Christine and Theodore
Philadelphia, PA

by Ashley Rosenbaum

Kindly save the date
For the wedding of
Olivia Rose Harrington
Gregory Nolan Kowalski
Saturday, August 26th, 2024
New York City
invitation to follow

Classy Type
by Hooray Creative

Modern and Minimalist

Sample wording for a modern and minimalist save the date.

If you prefer a save the date that’s clean and simple, then choose an airy, minimalist save the date design and only include the pertinent wedding details in the copy. The rest will speak for itself.

Save our Date
Adam + Nathan
July 17, 2023 | Denver, CO

by Kelly Schmidt

There is no us
Without you
Fred & Hillary
Will be wed
May 12, 2023
Miami, FL

No Us Without You
by Pati Cascino

Playful / Funny

Sample wording for playful and funny save the dates.

Keep things light and fun with an expected save the date design, paired with wording that conveys your bubbly personalities. Puns relating to your relationship or the location of the wedding are always a winner.

Free cake
Open bar
Need we say more?
10 22 23
Save the date
Isobel + Roger
New York
invitation to follow

Bold Move
by That Girl Press

Now you can stop
asking us when
we’re going
to get married
Elizabeth + Nicole
Save the Date | 08.19.23 | Santa Fe

Love and Laughs
by Corinne Malesic

etiquette FAQ

You asked, we answered. We have the answers to the most frequently asked questions on save the dates, save the date etiquette, and how to word your save the dates.

What is a save the date?

A save the date is a card that’s mailed before the wedding invitation. It announces the wedding date and location and lets the recipient know they will be invited to the wedding. Basically, the purpose of the save the date is to get guests to mark their calendars and get excited about the wedding to come.

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Do we have to send save the dates?

Nope, sending save the dates isn’t mandatory, but we recommend it for a couple of reasons. First of all, your friends and family members will appreciate the heads-up and you’re giving them plenty of time to make any travel plans (if necessary). Some guests will likely have invitations to other weddings or events on the same day, so you’re more likely to get first dibs on the date. And lastly, save the dates are a great way to show off your engagement photos and kick off the celebration of your upcoming union.

However, a caveat: If you’re having a destination wedding, a summer wedding (that’s prime wedding season, after all), or a wedding that falls on a three-day weekend, then save the dates are a must. Those situations really do require a lengthy heads-up about your wedding, so mailing a save the date well in advance increases the chances of guests being able to attend your wedding.

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When should we send save the dates?

Mail your save the dates six to eight months before the wedding. This will give guests ample time to request days off from work and make travel plans, if needed. However, if the wedding falls on a holiday weekend or is a destination wedding or summer wedding, aim to send them nine months to a year in advance. For reference, Minted has a comprehensive wedding planning checklist that is helpful when laying out your timeline.

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Who gets a save the date?

Anyone you’re sure you’re going to invite to the wedding. When you’re forming your guest list, start with your immediate family and closest friends and then consider other family members, school friends, coworkers, friends of parents, etc. If your guest list is not entirely finalized, refrain from sending save-the-date cards to guests on your B-list. Once someone receives a save the date, you’re obligated to send them a wedding invitation, too.

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Do we need to add plus-ones to the save the date?

This one is a tricky one, because once you offer a plus-one, you can’t take it back. Here’s our guide on whether or not to add plus-ones to your save the date.

When to include a plus-one on the save the date:

  • Married, engaged, and cohabitating guests should get a plus-one.
  • Give your wedding-party members a plus-one.
  • Guests who have been with their partner for so long that it’d be awkward not to invite them.

When NOT to include a plus-one on the save the date:

  • If you’ve chosen your wedding date and location, but not a specific venue. It’s best to play it safe since you don’t know how many people your wedding venue will be able to accommodate.
  • You’ve chosen a wedding date and venue, but your budget isn’t finalized—it’s a good idea to wait and see how many plus-ones you’ll be able to afford.
  • Since it’s still early, consider not offering plus-ones for guests who are casually dating or single; as the wedding date gets closer, you’ll have a more accurate sense of how many guests will be attending and if you can accommodate additional plus-ones.

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Do you put names on save the dates?

Yes, you should put the name of you and your fiancé. And, if there isn’t a picture of the two of you on the front or back of the card, you should also make a point to include your last names. Friends who haven’t heard from you in a while, or distant relatives, may be a bit confused by a card that says “Ashley and Mike” otherwise.

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Do you ask for an RSVP?

When considering what to include on a save the date, avoid asking for an RSVP. The save the date card is the first piece of information you send out announcing the preliminary details about your wedding, not when you request info about attendance. When you send out your wedding invitations you can include an RSVP request.

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What types of save the dates are available?

There are many different kinds of save the dates to choose from to suit your wedding style and budget. You can go the traditional route with a paper save-the-date card sent via snail mail; you could also opt for a more casual postcard-style save the date or a magnetic save the date that guests can stick on their refrigerator as a reminder. We also have change the date card designs in case you need to postpone your wedding due to unforeseen events. Check out our full list of 38 unique save the date ideas, our roundup of all the different Minted card sizes and formats you can choose from, or our list of 7 change the date card trends.

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Is it ok to email my save the dates?

These days, many couples are opting for electronic invitations to many wedding-related parties, like the engagement party or bachelor/bachelorette party. Electronic save the dates are definitely a convenient and affordable option, especially if many of your guests live overseas or if you’re hoping to keep your wedding as eco-friendly as possible. However, there are a couple of drawbacks to consider:

  1. There’s a chance your save the date email might get filtered into a guest’s spam folder or that the email address you have for someone is one they no longer check.
  2. Digital correspondence doesn’t have the tangibility factor of an actual save the date card. When a guest receives a save the date in their mailbox, they’ll likely stick it on the refrigerator as a reminder.
  3. If you’re emailing a save the date, it might get buried in guests’ inboxes once they’ve read the message.

Another thing to keep in mind is the formality of your wedding to come. The save the date functions as a little sneak peek at the kind of wedding you’re planning. So, the more formal the celebration, the more likely a printed save the date card will convey a similar tone and aesthetic, rather than an email.

Keeping those factors in mind, if you decide to go the digital route, we suggest emailing save the dates to everyone on your guest list. Then, take the extra step to also snail-mail a printed save the date card to not-so-tech-savvy guests (e.g., older guests who might not check email regularly), as well as family members who might want to save the card as a wedding keepsake.

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Does our save the date have to match our wedding invitation?

Save the dates tend to be less formal in style than the wedding invitation, so this is your chance to give your guests a glimpse of you as a couple. If you’ve taken engagement photos, choose a couple of your favorites to incorporate into a photo-themed save the date design. Having a destination wedding? Play up your wedding locale with a save the date design that highlights the setting (think: palm fronds, mountain vistas, the Manhattan skyline, etc.). But you can never go wrong with classic stationery choices, like elegant calligraphy, romantic watercolors, and metallic foils. Also, keep in mind, it’s nice if your save the dates tie in somewhat with the theme of your wedding website. For tips on how to make a wedding website and how to choose wedding colors as you design it, we have the resources to make it easy for you!

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Do I have to send someone a wedding invitation if I sent them a save the date?

Yes—anyone who received a save the date announcement must also receive a wedding invitation. When someone receives a save the date in the mail, there is a clear expectation they will be invited to the wedding and that a formal invitation will follow. Failing to send a wedding invitation to someone who received a save the date would essentially be uninviting them. If your guest count and/or the wedding budget has become an issue since mailing out the save the dates, then sit down with your partner to figure out a way to scale back on catering, decorations, or music instead.

And if your questions still aren’t answered or you need some additional inspiration, check out our top 10 tips from wedding planners.

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