wedding invitation wording & etiquette

Anatomy of a Wedding Invitation Learn more about wedding websites
  1. Monogram
    This element symbolizes the union and uses the initials of the couples’ first names.
  2. Hostline
    Whoever is hosting the celebration is mentioned first.
  3. Couples’ Names
    The bride’s typically comes before the groom’s.
  4. The Details
    Spelling out the date in words helps to avoid confusion.
  5. Reception
    Set the tone for after the ceremony.

Not sure how to word your wedding invitations? It might seem simple at first, but once you get started, you may realize that crafting the perfect wedding invitation wording can be a little tricky—there are etiquette rules to navigate and maybe a couple of sticky situations to figure out. But in a nutshell, the wording of your invitation should reflect the overall vibe of your wedding day. Ready to get started? We’ve compiled this guide to wedding invitation wording and etiquette right here.


what to include


1

Host line

The first line of the wedding invitation is where you list who’s hosting the wedding (a.k.a. who is paying for the wedding). Traditionally, this was usually the bride’s parents, so listing their names on the host line was a way of acknowledging that generosity. These days, however, more and more couples are either paying for the wedding themselves (in this case, you can omit the host line entirely) or receiving financial contributions from parents on both sides—in this case, you can list all parents’ names or opt for something simpler like, “Together with their parents” or “Together with their families.”

The most important thing to keep in mind about the host line is to word it in a way that feels comfortable to you both as a couple. Here are a few rules to help you figure out the best host-line wording for your family dynamics:

  • The word “and” in between two names traditionally implies that those people are married.
  • If your parents are divorced and you want to include both as hosts, you can include them all, just keep each parent on a separate line.
  • If you’re going to include the name of stepparent, keep it on the same line.
  • Hosts who are not married should be on separate lines.
  • Names should not listed in order of who paid more.
  • If you want to include the name of a parent who is deceased, you’ll need to rearrange things a bit, as someone who has passed can’t actually serve as a host. A common way to honor a deceased parent is alongside a member of the couple’s name as “Olivia French, daughter of Susan French,” or “Olivia French, daughter of Michael French and the late Susan French.”

See Host line wording examples

One Set of Parents Hosting (Married)
Include your parents’ full names, with middle names (for very formal weddings), and never their initials. If they have different last names, write “and” to join the two names.

  • Mr. and Mrs. Michael Timothy Williams (very formal; includes middle name)
  • Mr. and Mrs. Michael Williams (formal)
  • Mr. and Mrs. Michael and Sarah Williams (formal; includes both first names)
  • Sarah and Michael Williams (less formal)

One Set of Parents Hosting (Divorced)
Include your mother’s name first, followed by your father’s name. Do not use “and” to connect the two names; rather, each name should get their own separate line.

  • Mrs. Josephine Hernandez
  • Mr. Brian Walsh

Both Sets of Parents Hosting
For different-sex couples, list the bride’s parents’ names at the top of the invite, then the groom’s parents’ names. For same-sex couples, list the names according to preference or in the order that looks best with the invitation design.

  • Mr. and Mrs. Steven Wong and Mr. and Mrs. Adam Hollis (formal)
  • Mr. and Mrs. Darren Valenzuela with Mr. and Mrs. Warren Lee (formal)
  • James and Alisha Parrish together with Allan and Beatrice O’Rourke (less formal)

Couple is hosting with their families
When the couple and both of their families are contributing to the cost of the wedding, many choose to add a line such as “Together with their families” as the host line.

  • Together with their families
  • Together with our families
  • Together with their parents

Couple Is Hosting
If the couple is hosting the wedding themselves, you can skip the host line altogether or start the invitation wording with a warm and welcoming introduction, such as:

  • With open hearts
  • Together with full hearts
  • With great joy

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2

Request line

The request line is where you invite people to attend your wedding (a.k.a. “Please come!”), so use this section to set the tone for your celebration. If your wedding is formal, use more formal language to reflect the occasion (e.g., “request the honor of your presence…”); if your wedding is casual, use less formal language (e.g., “Would love for you to join them...” or “Want you to come party with us…”). Here are a few more things to keep in mind:

  • “The honor of your presence” is traditionally used to denote a religious service. Some couples opt to spell “honour” using the British spelling; both are correct but spelling it with a “u” evokes a more formal and traditional feel. (Note: If you’re using “honour” on the invitation, we recommend matching it with “favour” as in “favour of your reply” on the RSVP card.)
  • “The pleasure of your company” (or variations on this) is used to denote a non-religious ceremony locale.

See Request line wording examples

  • request the honor of your presence
  • request the honour of your presence (for formal, religious ceremonies)
  • request the pleasure of your company
  • cordially invite you to attend
  • would love for you to join them
  • would be delighted by your presence
  • invite you to celebrate with them
  • invite you to their wedding
  • joyfully request the pleasure of your company
  • invite you to celebrate their marriage
  • invite you to join them
  • invite you to the celebration of
  • invite you to share in the festivities
  • invite you to share in their joy
  • would love your presence

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by Susan Asbill

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by Alethia Frye

Charlotte, NC

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by Kelly Schmidt

Vancouver, CA

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3

Action line

Here, you’re outlining what you are inviting people to share in. Some examples:

  • Traditionally, with the bride’s parent’s hosting, this line is usually something like, “At the marriage of their daughter.”
  • If both parents are hosting, the line might read “At the marriage of their children.”
  • If you’re hosting yourselves, the line could be something like “At the celebration of their union” or “As they tie the knot.”

See Action line wording examples

  • at the marriage of their daughter (if the bride’s parents are hosting)
  • at the marriage of their children (if both sets of parents are hosting)
  • at the celebration of their union
  • as they tie the knot
  • as they say “I do!”
  • in celebration of their marriage
  • to celebrate their marriage

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by Amy Kross

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by Jennifer Postorino

Scottsdale, AZ

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by Stacey Meacham

Greenville, SC

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by Petra Kern

Ljubljana, SI

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4

Couples’ Names

This one might seem easy—that is, until you start thinking about the nitty-gritty details. Whose name goes first? Do you have to include last names? What about middle names? There really are no right or wrong answers, so do whatever feels most comfortable to you both, but here are a few suggestions:

  • For different-sex couples, the bride’s name typically goes first, followed by the groom’s name. If the bride’s parents’ names are listed at the top, the bride’s name can just be her first and middle name (without last name), while the groom’s name is listed in full, or his first and middle names are listed, followed by the line “Son of Mr. & Mrs. Stephen Wong.”
  • For same-sex couples, you can list the names in alphabetical order by last name, or in the order you choose (or perhaps in the order that looks best with the invitation design).
  • For a less formal feel, you may opt to list first names only.
Garden Beauties by Lori Wemple, Minimalist Deco by Nazia Hyder

Garden Beauties by Lori Wemple Minimalist Deco by Nazia Hyder

True Love

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by Carolyn Nicks

Loveland, CO

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by Kate Ahn

Iowa City, IA

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by Laura Hankins

Edmond, OK

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by Kanika Mathur

San Jose, CA

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5

Date & Time

  • Traditionally, the date and time should be spelled out in full. For example, if your ceremony is on September 15, 2021, at 4:30 p.m., the wording should read, “Saturday, the fifteenth of September, two thousand twenty-one, at half after four in the afternoon.”
  • The day of the week and the month should be capitalized. The year should be lowercase.
  • There is no “and” when spelling out the year.
  • Time of day should be spelled out as “four o’clock” or “half after four o’clock.” Note that “half after” is the most traditional way to indicate time. However, less formal invitations can use “half past four o’clock” or “four-thirty.”
  • Traditionally, there is no need to add phrases such as “in the afternoon” or “in the evening” unless the event takes place at times like 8, 9 or 10. You should then designate “in the morning” or “in the evening” for clarity. However, some stationery designers add these phrases to fill out a line to improve the overall look of the invite design. This is totally up to you and your designer.
  • Evening begins at five o’clock, otherwise it is considered afternoon from noon until four o’clock.
  • It’s important to note that these formal date and time rules are frequently broken in more modern invitation designs, where the date and time are listed using numerals; using numerals is also preferred for more informal weddings.

See Date & time wording examples

  • 4:00 p.m. can be spelled out as:
    • four o’clock (traditional)
    • four o’clock in the afternoon (also acceptable)
    • 4:00 p.m. (informal)
    • 4:00 p.m. in the afternoon (informal)
  • 4:30 p.m. can be spelled out as:
    • half after four o’clock (traditional)
    • half past four o’clock (also acceptable)
    • four-thirty in the afternoon (also acceptable)
    • 4:30 p.m. (informal)
    • 4:30 p.m. in the afternoon (informal)
  • 5:30 p.m. can be spelled out as:
    • half after five o’clock (traditional)
    • half past five o’clock (also acceptable)
    • five-thirty in the evening (also acceptable)
    • 5:30 p.m. (informal)
    • 5:30 p.m. in the evening (informal)

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6

Location

  • List the ceremony venue as follows: “Venue Name” on one line with “City, State” on the following line; for formal weddings, the state name is usually spelled out (instead of abbreviations).
  • The venue’s street address is traditionally not included (although you may decide to list it), unless it is a private residence.
  • Zip codes are not usually included.
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by Melanie Kosuge

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by Katharine Watson

Portland, ME

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7

Reception line

  • List the ceremony venue as follows: “Venue Name” on one line with “City, State” on the following line; for formal weddings, the state name is usually spelled out (instead of abbreviations).
  • The venue’s street address is traditionally not included (although you may decide to list it), unless it is a private residence.
  • Zip codes are not usually included.

See Reception line wording examples

  • Reception to follow
  • Reception immediately following the ceremony
  • Dinner and dancing to follow
  • Cake, punch, and merriment to follow (if you’re not serving a full meal)
  • Join us after the ceremony for cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, and dancing. (if you’re not serving a full meal)
  • A dessert reception following the ceremony (if you’re not serving a full meal)
  • The celebration continues with a reception
  • Join them for the reception celebration
  • An evening of celebrating to follow
  • A celebration with dinner, drinks, and dancing will follow
  • Join us for dinner, dancing, and celebrating
  • Fabulous food, fun, and festivities to follow
  • Dine, dance, celebrate…
  • Some dinner, some dancing, and all eternity to follow
  • Feasting and merriment to follow
  • Feasting and fun to follow
  • Dining, dancing, and happily ever after to follow
  • To share in our happiness, kindly join us for a dinner reception
  • Dinner and dancing under the stars
  • Shake, rattle and roll with us
  • Bring your dancing shoes! Dinner and music immediately following the ceremony.

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Other Considerations

Dress code
Including a line about the wedding’s dress code is optional but can be helpful for guests; however, if your wedding is black tie, you must include that on the invitation. If you don’t include dress code information on the invitation, then guests will infer attire details based on the formality of the wedding invitation itself (i.e., if the invitation is very fancy, guests will likely anticipate a formal affair). The dress code line should be listed on a line following the reception location.

Wedding website
Typically you don’t print your wedding website on the wedding invitation; rather, you should list it on one of the accompanying cards (like a reception card or additional information card). It’s also a good idea to have already printed your wedding website URL on your save the date card.


wording examples


Use these sample wedding invitation templates to figure out how to word your own. (Pro tip: Minted Design Associates can also help craft your copy so that the wedding invitation wording perfectly reflects your big day.)

Who is hosting the wedding?

Both Parents

Traditional Religious

Held in a religious venue,
hosted by both sets of parents

Mr and Mrs Charles Hoffman
and Mr and Mrs Lucas Harrison
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Alexandra Quentin
and
Brian Forsyth
Saturday, the Ninth of June
Two thousand twenty-four
half past five o’clock in the evening
Cathedral of Christ the King
Atlanta, Georgia
celebration following

Love Stories
by Liz Conley


Traditional Secular

Held in a secular location,
hosted by both sets of parents

Mr. and Mrs. Donald Anderson
together with
Mr. and Mrs. Liam Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Elizabeth May
and
Charles Smith
the twenty-second of August
at half past three in the afternoon
Two thousand Twenty Four
The Mayflower Grace
Washington, Connecticut
dinner and dancing to follow at
Piedmont Hotel

Elysium
by Design Lotus


Casual Informal

Held in a casual location,
hosted by both sets of parents

Mr. and Mrs. Harold Hunter
And Mr. and Mrs. George Temple
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Estella and
Grayson
April 24th, 2022
at 4 O’Clock
The Gardens Edge Inn
Seattle, Washington
formal reception to follow

Flourishing Edge
by Grace Kreinbrink


Bride’s Parents

Traditional Religious

Held in a religious venue,
hosted by the bride’s parents

Mr. and Mrs. Yuri Smith
joyously invite you to attend
the wedding of
Rebecca Leigh
and
Phillip Austin
October 20th, 2024
3:00 in the afternoon
Second Presbyterian Church
Richmond, Virginia
merriment to follow

Eternal
by Carly Reed Walker


Traditional Secular

Held in a secular location,
hosted by the bride’s parents

Mr. and Mrs. Geoffrey Walker
cordially invite you to attend
the wedding of
Laura June
to
Emerson Fournier
August 5th, 2024
Saturday evening at 5:30pm
Hotel Sorrento
90 Madison Street
Seattle
reception to follow

Monogram a la Mode
by Hooray Creative


Casual Informal

Held in a casual location,
hosted by the bride’s parents

Eli and Cristina Mullins
request the pleasure of your company
at the wedding of
Clara
&
Sebastian
saturday, october 18th, 2024
6 o’clock in the evening
king plow arts center
altanta, ga
reception to follow

Bold Geometric
by Morgan Kendall


Groom’s Parents

Traditional Religious

Held in a religious venue,
hosted by the groom’s parents

Mr. and Mrs. John Kowalski
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of
Allegra Rose Harrington
to their son
Harris Nolan Kowalski
Saturday, Auguest 26th, 2024
3pm at Ashton Gardens
89 Peachtree Industrial Boulevard
Sugar Hill, Georgia
reception to follow

Classy Type
by Hooray Creative


Traditional Secular

Held in a secular location,
hosted by the groom’s parents

Jean & Frederick Coppola
joyfully invite you to
the marriage of
Jessica
and their son
Charles
Auguest 11, 2023
at 6 PM
Calistoga Ranch
Calistoga, California
reception to follow

Wedding Nosegay
by Chris Griffith


Casual Informal

Held in a casual location,
hosted by the groom’s parents

Mallory & Kenneth Harper
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of
Sophia Renee Enriquez
to their son
Jackson Douglass
Saturday, Sepember 21, 2024
at four thirty in the afternoon
Studio 817
817 Sixteenth Street
Sacramento, California
dinner and dancing to follow

Printed
by JoAnne Jinks


The Couple

Traditional Religious

Held in a religious venue,
hosted by the couple

Ava Edwards
and
Nicholas Eckerd
request the honor of your presence
at the celebration of their union
Saturday, the Fifth of August
Two Thousand Twenty-Four
at five o’clock in the evening
Mosaic Church
Austin, Texas
reception to follow

Eloquent
by Carolyn Nicks


Traditional Secular

Held in a secular location,
hosted by the couple

Sophia Anderson and
Jaden Harper
invite you to their wedding
September 14, 2024
Saturday at four o’clock
in the afternoon
Willow Creek Vineyard
Seattle, Washington
reception to follow


Casual Informal

Held in a casual location,
hosted by the couple

Olivia Chandler
and
Solomon Miller
invite you to their wedding
October 6, 2023 | 4pm
Foundry Park Conservatory
Seattle, Washington
reception to follow

Love Story
by Kate Ahn


Both Families & Couple

Traditional Religious

Held in a religious venue,
hosted by both families and the couple

Together with Mr. and Mrs. Nelson Han
and Mr. and Mrs. George Thompson
Amanda Marie Han
and
Louis Jeremy Thompson
request the honor of your presence
at the celebration of their union
Saturday, the twenty-sixth of May
Two thousand twenty-four
at six o’clock in the evening
Saints Peter and Paul
San Francisco, California

Antoinette
by Lulu and Isabelle


Traditional Secular

Held in a secular location,
hosted by both families and the couple

Amelia & James Riley
Jane & Thomas Evans along with
Serafina
and
Samuel
joyfully invite you
to their wedding
Octover 14th, 2023
at five o’clock in the afternoon
The Cloister at Sea Island
Sea Island, Georgia
black tie reception to follow

Serafina
by Melanie Kosuge


Casual Informal

Held in a casual location,
hosted by both families and the couple

Please join us
in the joy of celebrating
the wedding of
Emma Finch
&
Alvin Morris
Saturday, May Fourth
Twenty twenty-four
at six o’clock in the evening
The Drake Hotel
Chicago, Illinois

Color Arch
by Baumbirdy


Special Cases

Divorced Parents

Both parents’ names
on separate lines

Ms. Elaine Robbins
Mr. Bradley Hunter
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Candace
and
Emerson
May 15th, 2023
at six in the evening
The Frick Collection
New York, NY
dinner and dancing to follow

Deco Starburst
by Ana de Sousa


Remarried Parents

You can use a similar format when
one parent has remarried

Ms. Noelle Miller
Mr. and Mrs. Sean Cartwright
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Sophia
to
Joshua
The twentieth of June
two thousand twenty four
at six o’clock in the evening
Midtown Loft & Terrace
267 Fifth Avenue, New York, NY
reception to follow

Crescendo
by Griffinbell Paper Co


complete your suite


Wondering what else to send with your wedding invitation? Our guide below outlines exactly what you'll need to include, along with wording suggestions for each card.

Sense and Sensibility” invitation suite by Design Lotus
Photo: Anna Delores Photography

RSVP Cards

Good news! Wording the RSVP card (also called the reply card or response card) is a simpler task than the invitation. Here’s what you’ll need to include:

RSVP date: The first piece of information on the card is the reply-by date, which is typically three to four weeks before the wedding. This will give you enough time to get a final head count to the caterer (one week before) and to finalize your seating chart.

  • Remember to keep the wording consistent with the invitation: For example, “the favor or a reply” typically matches the invitation wording “the honor of your presence.” For less formal wedding invitation wording, such as “request the pleasure of your company,” the RSVP wording would typically be “Kindly reply by” or “Kindly respond by.”

Guest(s) names: Next is a line for guests to write their names, along with checkboxes for accepting or declining the invitation.

  • The M line: The “M” line on the RSVP card is the place where guests will write in their names. The “M” itself is meant to designate the first letter of the formal salutation (Mr., Mrs., Miss or Ms.), which the guest would write along with their name(s). The most traditional weddings might use the “M” line; for less formal celebrations, we suggest the more straightforward “Name(s)” instead.

Additional information you can include:

  • Meal choices may also be included on the reply card, along with checkboxes or illustrated icons.
  • It’s becoming more popular to include a song request line, something along the lines of, “We promise to dance if you play __________.”
Formal RSVP

Plaza by Lauren Chism

Example: Formal

A reply is requested by the tenth of July

 [Insert Name(s)] 
  accepts with pleasure
  declines with regret

Conventional RSVP 1

Minimalist Deco by Nazia Hyder

Example: Casual

Please respond by the thirteenth of June

 [Insert Name(s)] 
  happily accepts
  regretfully declines

Conventional RSVP 2

Vitrage by Petra Kern

Example: with Meals

Please reply by March 27

M [Insert Name(s)] 
  will attend
  will not attend

Meal choices:
  chicken
  salmon
  vegetarian


Reception Cards

If the ceremony and reception are held at the same venue, include the line “Reception to follow” at the bottom of the invitation. However, if the reception is held at a different location, it should be treated as a separate event—include a separate reception card with the event details as part of the invitation suite.

Reception Cards

Marked by JoAnn Jinks

Example: Reception Card

Please join us for an
dinner and dancing
immediately following
the ceremony in the
Allegro Ballroom


Activities Card

Activities cards can be very helpful if your wedding has multiple events taking place during the wedding weekend. List all of the festivities guests open to guests in chronological order; Minted’s Wedding Minibook Card™ is a great alternative to a flat card and features multiple pages to list wedding details for guests.

Activities Cards

Edgewater by Griffinbell Paper Co.

Example: Activities Card

Activities
A wedded weekend

Friday
Meadowood Winery Tour | 1:00 pm | Please meet in the hotel lobby
Rehearsal Dinner | 7:00 pm | Meritage Resort | 875 Bordeaux Way

Saturday
Ladies Tea | 11:00 am | Churchill Tea Room | Please meet in the hotel lobby

Sunday
Farewell Brunch | 11:00 am | Bouchon Bistro | 6534 Washington Street


Information Card

An information card can be enclosed with your wedding invitation if you’d like to provide any additional wedding details to guests: directions, transportation information, lodging suggestions, etc.

Information Cards

Ring Box by Phrosné Ras

Example: Information Card (directions)

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etiquette FAQ


As you can see, there are plenty of things to consider when it comes to writing and finalizing your wedding invitations. We've got the answers to all of your pressing wedding invitation etiquette questions below.

How do we let guests know we’re having an adults-only wedding?

If you’ve decided not to invite kids to your wedding, here’s our advice on how to let guests know (without hurting their feelings!).

  • Address your wedding invitations carefully. If you’re doing formal invitations with both an outer mailing envelope and an inner envelope, list only the names of the invited adult guests on both the inner and outer envelopes. If you’re sending outer envelopes only, only list the names of the invited adult guests. Do not write “The Smith Family,” since that would indicate that all family members, including children, are invited. You can also write the names of each invited guest on the response card. This technique makes it very clear who is invited to the wedding and all your guests would need to do is check "will attend" or "will not attend."
  • Do not put "adults only" on the wedding invitation. Resist the urge to have this phrase printed on your invites because it might be a little jarring for some guests who might be sensitive to this. The more tactful, gentler way to spread the word is to encourage family members, wedding-party members, and friends to spread the word to other guests by mouth.
  • Do include it on your wedding website. Your wedding website is the perfect place to convey additional wedding details, such as keeping your wedding an adults-only event, links to your wedding registry, travel and transportation details, dress code, and recommended local babysitting services.

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Where do you include information such as your wedding website and wedding registry?

Traditionally, it is not advised to include your wedding website URL and wedding registry information on the actual invitation itself. For your wedding website, we suggest including an additional insert card that lists the website details. If you’re already including an insert card with travel information or additional wedding details, you can print the URL on the bottom of that card. As for registry details, you can include that information on your wedding website, with links to each online store, if possible, for added convenience.

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Do you write guests' full names on the wedding invitations?

If following proper wedding invitation etiquette, yes. When you are addressing your invitation envelopes, you should spell their names out in full (title, first name, middle name (optional), and last name). Avoid using nicknames or initials. Be sure to use appropriate social titles as well, addressing married couples as "Mr. and Mrs." or "Mr. and Mr." For more on addressing your invitation envelopes, please see our in-depth guide to wedding envelopes and addressing.

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When should our wedding invitations be sent out?

In order to send your wedding invitations in a timely fashion, aim to stick to the following timeline:

  • 4–5 months before the wedding: Order wedding invitations
  • 6–8 weeks before the wedding: Mail wedding invitations

If you’re hosting a destination wedding or are tying the knot over a holiday weekend, you’ll need to factor in more time so guests can make any necessary travel arrangements. Mail your wedding invitations three months ahead of time.

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How much time should we give guests to RSVP for the wedding?

Set your RSVP deadline for three to four weeks before the wedding date. This timeframe will give you enough time to provide your caterer with a final head count, which is usually needed one week before the wedding. An accurate headcount will also allow you to finalize your wedding seating chart.

If some guests still have not responded by your RSVP deadline, give them a quick phone call to follow up.

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Who should get a plus-one and who doesn’t?

This is a tricky question, so be sure to tread carefully as you and your partner determine what makes the most sense for your wedding guest dynamics. Here are our general wedding etiquette rules on plus-ones and whether or not you should give guests the opportunity to bring a date to the wedding:

  • Married, engaged, and cohabitating guests should get a plus-one.
  • Wedding-party members (bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc.) should get a plus-one.
  • Guests who have been with their partner for a lengthy amount of time should get a plus-one. This, of course, is tricky. What constitutes a long enough period of time? While this varies for everyone, in general, our rule of thumb is that anyone who has been coupled up with their partner for so long that it would be awkward not to invite them should get a plus-one.
  • For everyone else, make a blanket rule, such as “only immediate family members can bring a date” and stick to it.

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